Love Vs Infatuation

Love vs. Infatuation

What is the elusive thing called "Love" that everyone so desperately needs? Sometimes, we sort of like this girl because she is beautiful? Or the girl likes him because he is handsome? But this kind of "Cinderella Syndrome" when the girl is waiting on her Prince Charming is not real love. It is better known as "Infatuation", and there is a vast difference between it and real love. Enumerated here below are the differences. Find out if you are really in love and not just infatuated.

What is Infatuation?
Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the Emotions and Will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love. Gentlemen, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint? This is infatuation. It is based totally on physical attraction; Often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus infatuation is mostly biological.

Also remember; never tell a woman you love her, unless you are willing to marry her. Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless. Infatuation is more interested in satisfying yourself and your "feelings" than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation. This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if you are truly in love.

What is Love?
Now you understand what infatuation is, let us now go on to discuss about Love.

Love is Patient - The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfillment of expectations. When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out of her shell, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view – maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding. Have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, Love is willing to give the relationship time to grow at a natural pace. It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.

Love is Kind - Love seeks to encourage and build up on others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others. It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy, i.e. Compliment one another, magnify the other's strength, Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important, etc.

Love is not Jealous - Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

Love is not to Brag - Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often, a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself. Others will exalt him.

Love is not Arrogant - Love is not conceited, boastful, cocky or stuck up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude. Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanor implies, "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you". Of course this is not love.

Love always Covers - This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential. Love is patient with faults of others. It doesn't criticize or broadcast to the world the faults of others. Love is present even when it knows the other is not perfect.

Love always Perseveres - Love always stands its ground and holds out. It will outlast anything. It will even love on the face of unreturned love. Real love will last through all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

Love is not Provoked - This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centered not self-centered. Love says, "I love you, I want to give you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"

Love does not act Unbecomingly - This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonorably, or indecently. It does not embarrass others by its actions. It is characterized by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manners. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl or offering her your arm when you walk together.

Love is Forgiving - Lastly, this is a must for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his girlfriend is only an hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.

Ppl nowadays..haiz..rubbish!

got a mail forwarded, well..really very furious while reading this forwarded mail, its in chinese though, but fine, for the sake of that old man, i'll translate..(soli la, translate not good don laugh at me k? mayb will be translated into rojak la..but hope it will help..)

收到人家forward的email，看了真的很失望咯，现在的人怎么那么没良心阿? 唉。。。真的是社会的败类，有钱就了不起阿?不要以为你的1分钱就打过牛车轮。。。

email原文:

网上公开声讨！不要脸！人面兽心！请注意，照片上是3只狗！ 确实挺丢中国国人的脸。 真他妈可耻！赶紧，能转的都给我转出去！ 面對這樣一位年邁，處於生活艱難的老者時，她們母女這樣做就沒有一點良心上的遣責嗎？~~~~~

originated from China, well they really 'throw' China ppl de face bah..facing an old man, an old man that can hardly even earn a living, but they really very 'mei liang xin' de ask the old man pay..pay wat? pay 4 accidentally scratched n tore the gal's stupiak jeans..

这个就是那一对可恶的母女，大家看看它们的贼脸！一个模子刻出来的丑陋!

this is the pic of the evil dog-like mother n daughter

一名收破烂的老人不小心划破了一年轻女子的牛仔裤，因拿不出对方要求的50元赔偿，老人下跪十次。
an old man collecting scraps accidentally tore a young gal's jeans, n bcz the old man really can take out $50 to compensate them, the old man kneel down 10 times 　

老人手裏只有8元零4毛.

the old man have only $8.04 cash in hand (swt..cash in hand, haha..study a/cing till sort liaw..haha) 　　

当记者赶到德外大街高等教育出版社门口发现，一个穿灰色羽绒服的中年妇女正在推搡一名衣著破烂的老人，嘴裏喊著：“赶紧赔钱！”周围上百名路人围观。

when the reporter reach the scene (dono wat wat place la..the scene 2 tiok liaw..) somewhat high level education publisher's main entrance, a women wearing grey was pushing the old man, shouting at him :"faster pay!!" surrounding was more than hundred of passer-by. 　

旁边站著一名20岁左右的女子，蓝色牛仔裤腿处被划开了一条两三厘米长的口子。被推搡的老人噙著泪水不停地恳求著，手裏捏著一叠毛票，总共8元零4分。

standing beside is a girl aging around 20 years old, her blue jeans was torn, about 3cm. Tears of the old man was rolling down while being push by tat 'bo liang sim' de women, his hand was holding $8.04　

“不就破一个小口子吗，至於这样为难人家嘛。”看著下跪的老人，旁观路人纷纷劝说“得饶人处且饶人”。面对路人的指责，中年妇女毫不在意，坚决要让老人赔钱。

"Its only a little torn, no need embarass the old man like this ma.." "Jz 4give him la.." The crowd surrounding the old man speaks.. but the women doesnt even care what the crowd say n scold, she insisted for compensation. 　

面对“巨额”赔偿老人下跪．

Facing this amount, which is a significantly HUGE amount, the old man knelt. 　

据了解，当时这对母女走到高等教育出版社附近的路口处，刚好老人骑三轮车拐弯，车上的铁丝将年轻女子的裤子剐了一个小口。女子的母亲要求老人赔她50元。 无奈之下，老人“扑通”一声跪下，不想对方丝毫没有反应，老人连续下跪十次。

Things happen when the mother n daughter walked till the junction when the old man's tri-cycle was making a turn n the metal on the tri-cycle tore the gal's jeans. The mother insisted for $50 compensation. Having no choice, the old man knelt..continuously for 10 times. 　　

这一下把围观的群众惹怒了，在附近大厦当保安的武先生愤怒地说：“对待这样一个年迈的老人，她们真是欺人太甚。”说完，他将口袋裏的23元钱塞在老人手裏。

This time, seeing this, the surrounding crowd really turn furious, a man, Mr Wu working as a security nearby scolded :"treating an old man (i would say a helpless old man) like this, they are really a big bully" after that he took out money from his pocket totalling $23 n squeeze them into the old man's hand.　

记者试图采访这对母女时，该中年女子说：“甭理她。”

The reporters do tried 2 approach the mother n daughter, but the mother told her daughter:"Dont need 2 entertain her (means, don hiu her)"

　

路人为老人凑钱赔偿．

the passer-by help the old man to gather money. 　　

在老人恳求和解未果的情况下，中年妇女最终拨通110报警。5点50分左右，德外派出所的民警赶到现场进行调解，但该中年妇女认为赔偿的钱不够，拒绝和解。这时，围观群众自发掏出钱来，一元、两元、十元……最后凑够了50元。

in the case that the old man begged to settle but failed, the women dailed 110 n called the police (-_-'' really ngiaw chi la this women..haiz) about 5.50pm, the patrol car arrived n the policemen tried 2 settle, but the women refused bah..zz..becoz the amount is not enuf to compensate tat jeans..(haiyo, since so rich then ma buy new 1 la, wats the point of embarassing the old man??! or she not rich enuf 2 buy new 1??) Seeing this situation, the surrounding crowd took out money, $1, $2, $10...at last they manage 2 gather $50. 　

老人再次向围观群众下跪，并不断地说：“谢谢，谢谢。”中年女子拿到钱后，拉著女儿一声不吭离开了。 　　

old man once again knelt, saying 'thank you' non-stop. after receiveing the money, the women pulled her daughter n left.

当时围观的群众纷纷表示赔偿50元的结果对老人不公平。民警也表示无奈，称这是民事纠纷，他们只能充当调解人的角色

the surrounding crowd all expressed that compenstaing $50 is really too unfair for the old man. The police also can do nothing but trying 2 settle it as this is a civil dispute.

同样是人，为什么要践踏他人的尊严呢?！
都看看！是他妈人干的事儿么？？妈的你个破裤子能他妈值几个钱啊！都他妈这样的素质，咱北京好搞不搞奥运了！看她们娘儿俩那狗样！妈的，欠抽！还他妈抱狗呢？狗都嫌你丫挺骚得慌！这种行为真他妈该给丫凌迟了！.... 赶紧的，看了的都给我转了！什么论坛博客的！全他妈给转了，我就不信了，这舆论还不把她们丫挺给治了！ 让更多的人关注这事儿！谢谢了啊！

--> y wan like that embarass ppl le? summore is an old man kok..haiz...really rubbish la..F**K la..where her heart go? let her dog eat ki is it??!!

the person who passed this msg do said that pls forward or place this issue on blogs or forums...

haiz..tat day also saw in newspaper, a women being robbed n attacked by 4 robbers, ppl surrounded n stand aside 2 watch the 'live show' bah...no one stands out 2 help, no one even tried 2 remember the robber's car plate number...

till the end, blame police kok...

ok la..even if called the police, ppl rob will rob so long de mer? when police reach they early early get away dy la...so, before blaming others, y dont we blame ourself? our own cold blooded society??

always watch 'live show', then when ask for their help..all say 'dono' 'tak tau' 'tak nampak' 'many ppl surround jz nw le, how can see o?'

same thing happened when the accident happened that day, Ahmad the driver called n waved for help, but jz nobody stops n help, at the end, the lorry attendant passed away...if help could have arrived much more earlier...if sumone jz gave their helping hand...

haiz..

wat 2 say? really dono wat 2 say...

jz..pls...pls do help n give ur helping hands 2 those who are in need of help..

n at least la..don embarass ppl like tat mother n daughter..

in our place here, we can always see old ppl selling fruits around or begging for money, if u don wan giv also don so rude go 'shooo!' them off la...at lease la, dui...they are also humans...

Ppl who wan 2 copy this n forward or post 2 ur blog, pls feel free 2 do so~~Chinese 1 is the original post, engalish de is rojak translated de..>.<

BoBo @ approx a mth later~

hehez~come..let me show u a pic, a pic enuf liaw la..hehe..cz she too cute liaw..later u guyz out there jealous if i show too many bah..ahaha...LMAO..ok la..craps aside..heres the pic..hehez~

*wat she doing ho?..bluek..;P*

~hehe...~

Tractor wif Spoiler??!

hehez...few days no update...was kinda bz, having class bah...so many hw n catchup 2 do summore..hhehez...

now... see wat we got here? a tractor with a spoiler???? can see ma can see ma? lolz..i wonder y is the spoiler there? any1 have any idea?? hahahhahhaha...

我怎么了? 很讨厌我自己。。

说了不去想，
但是听到某些名字，听到某些歌曲，听到某些话。。。。
我的心情就那么情不自禁的变差了一点点了。。
很讨厌我自己为什么还是会不开心
对不起，真的很对不起
我也不知道该怎么办，只希望时间能冲淡一切吧。。。。唉。。。。

Pork Chop & Friends...

hehez...after so long waiting, finally found the 4th member in Pork Chop & Friends..hehez..

well, its complete for me..(still got 3 more la, but those are their toys dy..)

this is wat i got..hehez..

Bee & Judie

Piggy & Pork Chop

the remaining 1 are porky, chop chop & birdy..hehez..(those next time then consider whether 2 buy o not lar..hehez)

well, wat i've collected are their 1st edition? dono la..lolz..now they got whole set eskimo de..(so the cute neh)..n hawaii de...still got 'adam n eve' de kok...hehehez..cutez..

they got many season de la..got wedding de, got cny de, got graduation de etc...hehez...

many ppl get a pair (bigger ones) to put in front of their wedding car too..hehez..

Charity comes from the heart...

Please, please do help others especially those who are really in need of help.
Jz because of some inconsiderate road users, some inconsiderate n cold blooded passer-by,
A life is just gone like tat..
If only the lorry driver did not park his lorry in the middle of the road,
if only some considerate passer-by stop by and give some help when the driver waved to stop them, the attendant may had survived
n now? 4 kids become orphans..youngest 1 is only 9 years old..haiz..

Just wanna say, if u do see somebody who needs help, pls..pls do help them
Charity comes from the heart, don only say that how charitable u r..DO it!
Its nice helping ppl, the feeling is jz undescribable...dont u feel so?

~曾經感動了千萬人的漫畫‏~

when you were young...

they spent a lot of time teaching us how 2 use spoon, chopstick, teaches you how 2 eat...

teach you how 2 wear clothings, tie your shoes, button up ur shirt...

teach you how to wash your face, comb ur hair...

teach you the principle of life...

so...

so...when they become old one day...

when they cant think of things, cant catch up with what u say...

PLEASE dont blame them...

when they start to 4get to button their shirts, tie their shoelaces...

when they start 2 dirty their clothing while eating...

when their hands start shivering while combing their hair...

PLEASE dont hasten them...because u are growing up, while they are growing old...

so long as you are in front of them (means be with them la...)...

their heart will be very warm...

If theres a day when they cant even stand, cant even walk...

PLEASE hold their hand, accompany them, walk slowly wif them...

just like...

just like how they hold our hand in those days...

看了这漫画有什么感想? 呵呵，没必要说太多，楼上的漫画就能解释到了，总之，要好好爱惜我们的父母，他们老了，好好的照顾他们，“就象当年他们牵着我们一样”

ok ma the translation? pai seh la, so long din translate things liaw..hehez..

hope u can get sumthing from this comic strip lar..~do appreciate n love our parents yea~

Aduiz..My 1st Progress Test in Sunway Kuching..

Well..i missed my F7 progress test..
2day had my F9 progress test..
OMG..hin hin like tat..>.<..i go see the notice for classroom allocation
eh? how come no f9 for exam de???
then i see see see...
oo..~ i saw F3..F3 looks like F8 bah..soli la..eyes not good..haha (seems tat tat moment i 4get that im actually having exam for F9 ho..lol)
SOMEMORE le...the F3 lecturer = Mr Fung..

zzz..i think also no think so much...i 'chiong ar~~'..chiong to that classroom..
ok..reach classroom..
yea..i saw Mr Fung..but??? he teaching??? eh?? exam cancel ka???
or so good no need us exam, n he discuss the ques???

swt..hin hin like tat..i open the door...walk in...
ee?? sth not very right le...i think every1 look at me..
Mr Fung also hin hin like tat see me..
then mayb..sumhow..he probably realized sth..
'exam? hehehe...downstairs la...ehhehe'

swt...hehehe summore bah..
then i 'o...hehehehe'
i hehehe back...then chiong out the classroom
whoa lao eh...!!! so funny..i also laf till bolatt... LMAO

then go down..see the list again?? eh?? no exam de??
nvm la..i go ask counter de ppl..
oo...its the classroom beside the seminar room...
haha

then go in...start my exam..lolz...



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as usual, afta class, go have supper wif ma darling..
when on my way back..
ee? got accident wo...
i saw a gen2 n a taxi...dono who knock who..but i think is the gen2 knock taxi?
the gen2 front damage..the taxi passenger side front tyre puncture n side door damage..
n wat i saw is..many cars stop by roadside lo..as usual bah
then many ppl at there 'puek shu' (so called 'discuss')...saw many youngsters, got gal summore, smoking summore.., n few taxi drivers..
swt...
but don care, none of my biz..stay there see do wat? cause traffic jam nia...zzz

anyway...do drive carefully..
especially on rainy days...road slippery ar..
~Safety 1st..know?~

LMAO..the Whore replied 2day...LMAO

call her whore, upgrade her..hehe

She go check dictionary about what bitch means bah.. lol

seems like bitch is jz too light for her lo..not gud enuf for her..hehe..:x

yea, i admit scolding her at her chatbox is the least effective way 2 make her life miserable..

swt, think i so eng need do sumthing very effective n waste my energy mei? lol
gila...so si ai bin kiss ppl's gf still wan i spend anymore effort o?

'Kua puah' liaw..a whore like this doesnt deserve anymore from me..even see her wan slap her also don wan, slap her make my own hand dirty nia..so cin cai kiss ppl bf n think its 'li suo dang ran' de..still say giv me lecture?wahahhaa...'cheap yeh'

posting this comment = feel too funny about her..symphatize her for her disgrace...tsk tsk tsk..wont be annoyed by her anymore..haha..(scold enuf 2 'extinguish' my anger dy)..she's jz a 'siew kiong' that would jz be another disgusting thing in ma life...choi koi du sor..wont choi that 'cheap yeh' anymore..only can see her bitchiness that make ppl 'geli'..eeww..*yuckz*

~A picture of 'Love'~

A picture of Love..

Can See anything? hehehez..

Well..try 2 click the picture n press Ctrl+A n there will be a surprise 4 ya all~

Best wishes 2 ya all out there ya~

Mugen Civic FD!! I wan my car LIKE THIS!! whoa...

wakaka...i wan my car like this..but, dream long long la..>.<..wait till i got money then say..

these pictures are found in a forum, the red civic is the Mugen version of civic FD. Wonder whether we can find this in M'sia

My friend do told me Honda M'sia have a few of this model (he working in Honda mah..)

but...zzz..too late when he told me..Our house FD ady 3 mths old tat time...zzz

he still ask me sell the one at home n get 1 Mugen de... Lol..

argh..i jz love this Mugen civic FD..its jz so NICE!!!!

Stop Stop... the pic below no more Mugen la..only red de is Mugen..hehez..

the Pic down here is the eagle eye projector for civic FD (pic from forum too)

was having the intention to have a set..

but, kch no stock, need post from KL...price quoted is around RM1200

whoa...wait la..wait i save money 1st..hehez..

i WAN projector!!! nice la..!!!!

but maintenance kinda expensive too...-_-''

sobz sobz...>.<

Fullstop for the past. Begin of a new life.

wellz, as what i replied in jul's n helen's comment,

"cheng or brush also waste energy liaw la. thought i so eng everyday go cheng mer?lolz..cheng enuf liaw then its time 2 stop lu..hehe..summore cheng also no use, tat bitch wont think that she got wrong bah..her stupiak sis still say i childish, haha..yea, im childish this time, cz too angry cz her bitchy sister kissed my bf..anyways, childish is still better than bitchy, right? lolz"

scolding her is jz too angry, now scold liaw le, at least its a relief for me. not going 2 care what they say, cz wat they say jz aint sth logic (still ask me go scold ang mo? hahaz..memang gila..compare apple with orange bah...mayb they jz dono how 2 compare like wif like? lolz )

enuf for those unhappiness in the past. its now time 2 begin our journey into our life full of happiness. hahaz

living happily only is the best way for both me n my bf, right? lolz
life still goes on bah..hehez
well. its time 2 leave the past behind
n its time to pursue our happiness..
hehez